To help you understand her reality, let me give you an example... Imagine you are walking through the Louvre museum in Paris... This is a giant museum filled with some of the greatest masterpieces of our civilization... Paintings worth millions... many that are priceless... works of art that define our culture, our society and our civilization.

But... there are 12 miles of paintings... after walking around for a few hours, you're so overwhelmed by all the artwork that all you see is just another painting and another painting and another painting. You are in sensory overload, and even though these are great works of art, it gets to the point where you are sort of sick of it, with the exception of the few paintings that REALLY JUMP OUT AT YOU.

Every once in a while, you come across something totally different and fascinating, and it captures your attention. But all the other paintings, even though they are masterpieces, just sort of disappear into the background.

This 'jaded' state of mind is the mind frame of the attractive woman being approached by men. Like those paintings, you may be a masterpiece in your own way, but if you are to stand out to her, you must DISTINGUISH yourself from the other men out there... or risk disappearing into the background.

Now, for an attractive woman, there's nothing unique or interesting about having you come up and tell her how great she is and how much you'd like to kiss her ass. An attractive woman is approached anywhere from 5 to 47 times a day, every day, day after day for years and years, so she's heard the same thing so many times, she probably feels like she can see into the future, because she knows what you're going to do and say before you even walk up and say it. While this approach may be unique for you, to her it is happening CONSTANTLY.

However, it is rare and fascinating when a guy shows he DOESN'T need a woman's approval... when he shows he's just as valuable as she is. And how do you learn to project this message? By learning from the behavior of successful 'jerks'.

I think of it like this: everyone wants to do the best that they possibly can when it comes to catching a mate. It's human nature, the basic economics of dating... the calculus of attraction. If you're with a 7 and you think you can get a 10, you're going to be on the lookout for that 10, looking for an 'upgrade'. Here's the catch: we don't come out of the womb with a number stamped on our foreheads. For a man, it's clearer when a woman is a 9 or a 10 to him, because a man's attraction to a woman is mainly determined by physical appearance (hip to waist ratio, breast size, ratio of eyes to nose to lips, symmetry, etc).
However, for a woman, attraction to a man is determined by very different factors. A woman will place much less emphasis on a man's appearance, and will judge his attractiveness more by personality traits. Thus, for a woman, the game is much more complicated. It is unclear to a woman if a guy is a 6 or a 10 until he DOES SOMETHING, either good or bad, to demonstrate his character... is he confident? Is he funny? Is he insecure? Guess what? This is what is killing your game... and you know what?

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